3 Salsa Dancing Questions People Are Afraid to Ask

Salsa is cool, no doubt about it. If you’re a bit skeptical, go out and see for yourself. It wouldn’t take too long for you to meet someone who knows a great place to practice some serious Salsa moves.

Indeed, it sizzles—like a red-hot Spanish chili smothered with piquant spices grown in the Caribbean. This well-loved social dance is popular because it’s fun and sexy at the same time. It’s also a great way to meet people from all walks of life.

Many say that music is the language of the soul; well, we say that salsa is the language of connection. Here are three of the most asked-questions about it:

What should I avoid when trying to meet women in my Salsa class or community?

Many guys might use salsa to meet girls, but allow us to enlighten you a bit: The rules of dating in the traditional sense still applies here. Aside from the attraction itself, dating is simply using common sense and consideration on a more intimate level. So when you meet girls and ask them to dance for the first time, practice the rules of dating.

Be real.

If you’re a below-to-average dancer trying to look like John Travolta gyrating on the disco floor, don’t show off. It looks awkward, and it won’t impress girls, either. Just like in dating, being real means showing who you really are. Being comfortable in your skin makes you look sexy, and believe us, girls will notice how much fun you’re having on the dance floor.

Don’t load up on alcohol.

An intoxicated dancer is a major turn-off. Drinking alcohol makes you lose your focus and coordination, making you look like you’re doing a road sobriety test instead of dancing Salsa.

Be respectful.

A decent girl doesn’t like her boundaries violated, so don’t push. Respect her space, and in time, she’ll share it with you. Here are two great mantras you should repeat to yourself 24/7: Respect and Finesse.

You can use the “3 Tempos” approach to warm up:

Merengue Tempo (Fast)

When you want something fast and easy, go for the Merengue. Not only is it slow enough to carry a conversation without getting out of breath, but it’s fast enough to move your body to an easy, comfortable beat. Use this as your first step to entice a girl to the dance floor.

Salsa Tempo (Medium)

Salsa requires a much faster and controlled rhythm here, so you need to be more aware of your movement. Now is not the right time to discuss existentialism. The best you can do here is smile, make some eye contact, and act confident. If things go well, then you can proceed to the most interesting part: the Slow Tempo.

Rumba / Zouk / Bachata Tempo (Slow)

Sure, you can frolic and dance and converse to your heart’s content, but if you want to get closer to a girl, you need to add more heat.  Merengue and Salsa are just the icing here. Rumba and Bachata is the cake. Keep in mind that it’s not an excuse to act like a Neanderthal. Test the waters as you inch your way closer, and see how she reacts. But always remember the two mantras we’ve talked about earlier: Respect and Finesse.

Important Reminder:

There comes a point where all your good looks, charm, and bravado won’t be enough to fake a dance step. That’s when you need to decide to “man up” and really dance Salsa.

You can learn it from your Mom and Dad, or even learn it in Youtube, but if you’re really serious about using the proper form and technique, then go to a class that really teaches it. You’re only as good as your teacher, so make sure the one who’s teaching you is truly an expert in Salsa dancing—not Hip-Hop or Street Jazz.

Why is it hard to find the “Salsa Rhythm”?

Have you ever sprinted with a friend at a park while carrying a light conversation? That’s what Salsa’s rhythm feels like.

Finding this rhythm may be challenging at first, but you don’t need to elevate on air to make it happen. There’s actually a process that you can learn to make it easier.

  1. Choose some classic Cha-Cha music, like the live Oye Como Va song.
  2. Practice your Salsa basic steps.
  3. Step it up by adding a triple step in between your rock strides.
  4. Now you’re dancing the “Triple Mambo”, or the more commonly known Cha-Cha-Cha. This step will help you develop your skill in hearing Latin rhythms and improving your foot/speed skills.
  5. Carry out the Triple Steps. This is almost the same as running after wearing your leg weights.
  6. Now go back to dancing the Salsa. Make sure that it’s a regular tempo, and add in a Cha-Cha-Cha in between sets when needed.

Shifting to a slower tempo will make it easier and less tiring when you shift to a faster one.

What’s a Salsa Dancing Lesson Like?

Salsa is easy to learn, and whether you’re a beginner or an advanced student makes no difference as long as you’re willing to put in the effort to learn. Here are some tips to get you started:

  • The dance studio can be a bit intimidating at first, so it’s normal to feel a bit nervous. This is normal, and will pass in no time.
  • You’ll get a great workout dancing Salsa.
  • What’s the easiest way to add to your dating/marriage attractiveness factor? Ask a girl to dance Salsa with you.
  • Initially, you might forget to smile, talk, think, listen, (or heaven forbid) even breathe at first. Soon you’ll remember to use your bodily functions again once you get the groove of it.
  • Make sure to hydrate well, since you will be sweating on the dance floor.
  • You need to be at an advanced level to learn how to lead or follow in Salsa. The best thing you can do is start with the easier ones like Rumba, Cha-Cha-Cha, or Bachate. Once you do, then you can work your way up.
  • Salsa with Merengue is like Coffee and Cream, they go very well together.

Final Thoughts about Salsa

We all have skills. It may not be as difficult as playing Ravel’s ‘Gaspard de la Nuit’, but our ability to use our bodies to survive is a skill in itself. So if you can breathe, then you can learn how to drive, speak French, and even dance Salsa.

The first step you can do is to take dance lessons. The good news is that our company founder was also a regular guy who had two left feet. He learned to dance, and eventually created a system for teaching normal people who, like him, thought that dancing was only meant for Fred Astaire and Patrick Swayze.

We believe so much in this system that we offer Free Private Lessons to our new students. Take this opportunity to learn now. You never know where it might take you (or who you’ll meet) in the long run.

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